Day 7: Love Believes the Best

So I just read the daily devotional and todays dare. I quickly jotted down some things and I have about 11 Positive and 4 Negative. It is hard to think of anything else negative about Tim. He is a great husband and father. I could add more to the positive but I will just stick with what I have. Now the Negative may only have 4, but those 4 are huge to me.
1. Procrastinates all the time
2. He is impatient with me and Jillian
3. Easily irratated/angred
4. Negative over Positive
We have talked about these before recently and he is doing alot better, I dont htink he was aware he was doing these things.

For example:Today we purchased exercise equipment, I was having issues with my side of the HEAVY box, I could tell he was gettign frustrated, but instead of him getting mad, he just took a deep breath and told me to switch sides with him. I was shocked and suprised at that.

I love my husband and I have tried to only look at the positive in him since we met, I may have said things to friends about what irritates me about him, but it is usually at that particular moment and dont really mean it.
I will continue to think positive towards hima dn everyone special in my life and stop thinking of the things that happened in the past.

The past is yesterday and tomorrow holds the future.

Heather

Day 6: Love is not Irritable

I just read todays devotion and dare. I will need a lil bit to think about this. I will blog once I have my list.

Heather

OK, so I have let todays devotion and dare sink in a little bit more. I do think that I can be a little irritable from time to time with my family, not intentionally,but that is no excuse. I am going to try to not let things get to me so much. I tend to carry alot on my shoulders without expressing what I am feeling and then I just expode at times for no reason at my family. I tend to also try to justify why I do or dont do things and then argue with my husband and throw stuff that he did or didnt do to make my ego/pride not feel like it had just received such a blow. I need to own up to what I have done wrong and admit it verbally,not just think it. I also need to be more patient with Jillian than I have been. She has a difficult life going from one house to the other and trying to remember what the rules are at each house and what she can or cant get away with. I have to remember that she is only 7 years old,sometimes I forget that.

I need to just take a few deep breaths and exhale and THINK about things before I say them and if I am having a rough day I need to communicate that instead of just blowing up at somethign that is so little or petty.

Breathe, just breathe.....

Heather

Day 5: Love is not Rude

This dare was at first I thought was going to be the one that was going to test myself. I can take criticism from anyone BUT my husband. I was so hesitant on doing this one, but I thought that if I gave up on this dare that I was giving up on having a good marriage. So I sucked it up and asked Tim bright and early in the morning to get it over with,not to mention I had class in the evening and knew we would both be tired by the time I got home.
When I asked him the question, he first said "is this a trick question?" then his next response was "There is none." I told him that I really wanted to know and would like for him to be honest.
then I took a big deep breath and kept telling myself, when he responds keep your mounth shout no matter what he says.

1. not active enough
2. Do thing just to do them not because I want to
3. have become a girly girl

exhale.... not so bad i asjked him to explain them a little more because I was a little confused.

1. I understood
2. as simple as when he says lets go to Outback for dinner I say OK instead of telling him I want to go to El Chico, just agreeing and doing what he wants.
3. this one made me laugh, his example was lst summer we went camping for the weekend, he said I complained the entire time that I was hot, I was dirty, that I wanted to go home. He was like this summer I will have to buy an RV so you wont be so grippy. I laughed again.

So It wasnt so bad after all.

Heather

Day 4: Love is Thoughtful

So today was a good one, I had new hire orientation, which keeps me pretty busy most of the day and he knows that. While I was showing a video to the new hires, I went to my office and called to ask if there was anyhting I could do for him and to tell him I was thinking about him. He said no but he had been thinking about me this morning. I could here it in his voice he was smiling. That made me smile too. :)

Bring it on Day 5!!

Heather

Day 3: Love is Not Selfish

I had to think ALL DAY about what I was going to do for today's dare,later in the day I thought of a conversation we had this morning and the Light Bulb went off in my head of what to do for him.This morning Tim made a comment that he is in a non-excercising rut and cant get out and asked that I help him get back into the gym, so on my way home from work I stopped by the store, picked up a fitness magazine and a box of the Goodstart chocolate powder mix for him to have for breakfast and picked up some sugar free redbull. He really appreciated it!

Heather

Day 2: Love is Kind

I didnt have a hard time on this one either, which is good because it gives me hope that we do have a strong marriage and I dont have to try too hard to show Tim that I love him.
Yesterday I made his lunch and slipped a note stating that i was thinking about him and wished him a good day and told him I loved him. I received a text message around 1 that read " Awww. I just got your note, I love you too!" That made my day and I couldnt stop smiling.
Lets see what day 3 holds.

Heather

Day One: Love is Patient

Today was a great day.I didnt really have to think to much about todays dare,which is good. There was a couple times I wanted to tell Tim to Shush, but it was only in a jokingly manner and he was cracking jokes about my height.
What a great start for this 40-day fast. Lets just pray that they will all be this easy.

Heather